Teenage girls tend to be a lot of insecurities wrapped in a blanket of drama. Often dealing with them can be difficult, especially because it can be hard to sort through what is real, what is a front, and figure out what they are hiding. The following are a few suggestions for dealing with teenage girls.
Focus on positive messages about themselves: It is really important that teenage girls have positive reinforcement on a regular basis. They need to know that they have value, and that they do not need to use their bodies or sexuality to get attention. So, when dealing with teenage girls, just remember that they are usually fairly insecure about something, and that one of the best ways to deal with the issues they have is to address their insecurities. Help them know that they are beautiful and interesting. Help them to develop their talents so that they can feel confident about who they are, and what they have to offer the world.
The most important thing you can do when dealing with a teenage girl is simple set yourself some rules for parenting a teenage girl. The first rule is consistency. You need to know what you are going to do when they sneak out, and do it every time. You need to know what you are going to do if they try to wear immodest clothing, and do it every time. You can’t let certain behaviors slide by now and then, and not other times. If you do, you send an inconsistent message, which means your teen won’t know what to expect from you. This can lead to erratic behavior.
Teenage girl drama can be one of the most difficult things to deal with. However, the best way to deal with it is to simply not play into it. If a teenage girl gets an audience, she will never let up. So, use key phrases to help your teenage girl to sort the hype from the reality. Things like, “How do you really feel?” or “What are the facts?” etc. can help them sort through their emotions and not let big dramas be created from almost nothing.
Teenage girls going through puberty can also be a difficult thing to deal with. They may be having emotional swings, and feelings they are not sure how to manage, etc. So, if you want to deal with them, help them get those emotions under control. You can help them understand what is going on in their body, and how they can calm some of the urges or feelings they are not sure how to deal with.
Teenage girls grow out of it, so it just takes some time of dealing with the drama and the insecurities, and helping support them, and help them understand that this miniscule moment in time is just that, a passing thing, and life will not always be like it is now.