What Is The Worst That Could Happen?

“Oh no, if I don’t wake up in time I will be late!”

When I had something important to do I would often lay awake at night thinking about how awful it would be if I were late. I had everything ready for tomorrow: Clothes, shoes, paperwork, keys, coins for tolls and other items. Then 2:00 a.m. would pass, then 3:00 a.m. Shortly after 3:00 a.m. I would fall asleep only to wake up at 5:00 a.m. My feet hit the floor and before I even get out of the driveway I am already exhausted.

One day I asked myself, ‘What is the worst that could happen?’

What is the worst thing that could happen if I rush or do not get to the appointment on time?

I could get a speeding ticket or at the very least, a moving violation. In New Jersey, one of the highest insurance rates in the nation, our premiums would go up immediately.

I could have an accident and hurt myself or others.

I could incur damage to my vehicle.

I may need to reschedule the appointment.

Not rushing to an appointment:

My car uses less gas when I drive the speed limit.

I’m less likely to have an accident or get a ticket.

I am more relaxed and see the countryside on the way there.

Not missing sleep the night before I am more alert.

Thinking through worrisome problems ourselves helps put things into perspective. Since children mirror things like worry or problem solving skills, thinking things through helps children learn those skills.

What is the worst thing that could happen if I don’t make the cheerleading squad?

What is the worst thing that could happen if the coach doesn’t recommend me?

What is the worst thing that could happen if I don’t get into my first college choice this fall?

What is the worst thing that could happen if I don’t get my driver’s license this year?

Often our worst fears never actually occur – like my not waking up on time. I had become so concerned that I had difficulty sleeping. In reality, not only did I get up on time but I arrived early consistently.

By Jackie Ramirez

Jackie Saulmon Ramirez has served as a volunteer with Parents Anonymous® of New Jersey, Inc. for more than twenty years, giving and getting support. Find her at her contact page.