We already know that lecturing a child does not always get the desired response. Sometimes it is not what you say but it may be how you say it. While my girls were young I learned about rewording messages to the girls so that they would understand and comply with requests. I … [Read more...] about It’s Not What You Say— It’s How You Say It
Promise Not Kept
Can your children count on you? Can your kids count on what you say today meaning the same thing tomorrow? When nine-year-old Chelsey was in the fifth grade, Mr. Ramirez wanted her to work harder and perhaps bring her Bs and Cs up to As so he made her a deal, he would give her … [Read more...] about Promise Not Kept
A Child’s Mistake: Holding a Grudge
Attending my Parents Anonymous group was the best thing I could have done for my daughters Chelsey and Katie. All the parenting I learned from my own parents about was either wrong or illegal. I just did not want to treat my girls the way I had been treated as a child. Having … [Read more...] about A Child’s Mistake: Holding a Grudge
Thoughts on Raising Gender-Able Children
Gender roles are often in the news but I wonder if we are talking about it enough with spouses and children. Back in May I discussed child discipline and child abuse with a fellow blogger in Scotland after my article Reporting My Husband to CPS Not Once— But Twice. He enjoyed … [Read more...] about Thoughts on Raising Gender-Able Children
Toddler Tantrum Tips
Toddlers’ tantrums are infuriating and embarrassing but if you can take yourself out of auto-pilot mode you can see you do have solutions. When Chelsey was born I spent months dreading the terrible twos. I had heard two-year-olds spent sometimes a year or more lying flat on … [Read more...] about Toddler Tantrum Tips
Parenting viewpoints from parents in the trenches, because parenting doesn’t come with a manual. In addition to